It is a belief that discipline will bring us success. Self discipline however is more important as it will lead to FREEDOM.

Discipline allows us to achieve the things we most want in life and will give us the freedom to enjoy what we love doing .

Discipline allows us to practice the daily habits that get us the things we desire , we want.   For example if we wake up, get up, dress up and show up and we are early to do all tasks we set ourselves to do , we will have more free time for what our passion or hobbies are.

If we have discipline to save money, we will have the savings to travel, go on holiday , eventually retire…..all leading to more freedom and own time.

If we set boundaries for ourselves , it enables us to develop disciplines (habits are formed) and it will give us true freedom which all of us crave.

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Lots of love, LIGHT and laughter



OFTEN we become tired, we feel time is running away and we don’t get enough done!
Then our body also shows up as tense, stiff, sore or worse scenario we become diseased with fibromyalgia , or chronic fatigue and just general feelings of “low” as an example.

We don’t realize that this is a vicious cycle of FEELING NOT GOOD ENOUGH …..most women feel like this where men seem to have an easier time feeling ok about where they are at.

Not feeling good enough puts an extra burden on our whole cellular system and keeps us in a state of NEVER GOOD ENOUGH.

This belief is an example of a negative BELIEF that might have been instilled in ourselves through out our childhood or in adulthood when we choose dysfunctional , abusive disempowering relationships where we even get told that WE ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH, NOT BEAUTIFUL ENOUGH, NOT THIN ENOUGH, NOT CREATIVE ENOUGH, NOT SUCCESSFUL ENOUGH….etc etc….

This is one of the many beliefs we need to become aware of so that we can improve our life and our health and happiness.

Sometimes we also carry a certain belief in our DNA as we carry it over from our generations before….unspoken , non verbal.



We all at some or other stage of our life will experience loss and this is part of our human experience. It is a normal part of our life. Grief is necessary to move through the stages to find the deeper meaning of a loss of a loved one or death of a pet or even after a separation or divorce .

Grief is universal yet distinctive.

If grief is not experienced with our feelings we stay stuck in emotions .

The grieving process is active and passive. Grief is passive as in that the loss , death is thrust upon us . We feel we have no choice and emotionally it will affect us. Grief is also active as we choose how we respond to our loss and there are definite steps we take to cope with the loss and its normal and healthy as we move through the MOURNING PROCESS.

THE PRELUDE to the grieving process is.

  • Shock
  • Denial

“this is not happening to me “ for instance or “the doctor is wrong” . The loss of control is most likely the hardest to deal with. Then we have the stage of EMOTIONAL RELEASE.

THESE are feelings like guilt, anger, bargaining, isolation, hopelessness, bitterness, frustration, worrying , pain and revenge. With ANGER we mask the emotions of the deep pain of loss . With BARGAINING with God /Spirit/the Universe we deal with statements like

“I should have, I ought to have…I could have….if only I did etc “

But all of these statements will not change the outcome.

DEPRESSION is a quiet stage of grief with feelings of isolation, confusion , deep sorrow and sadness and it is a normal stage of the mourning process. Its not healthy to not reach out to a loved one, a friend or group of support or a trusted grieving coach, therapist to have the support we need at this stage.  We will otherwise stay stuck in the emotion and our thoughts will cause us even more suffering . Its not advisable to suffer over our suffering as we are not victims or martyrs in life.

And eventually we will move into ACCEPTANCE. Then we have the upward turn to move forward again in life. Its not a happy end but we are ready to move on , move forward in our life.

Acceptance means we can see a future for ourselves, we find new meaning in life, we have new goals and passions. We have allowed ourselves healing !

We are transformed and have a deeper knowledge of how much stronger , resilient , and compassionate we have become with new faith and hope.

Grief is often experiences differently by different people as we often revisit a certain stage over time and the stages hit us differently like a wave that comes and goes .When we know the stages we know where we are in the mourning process and we can figure out when we will be done with the grieving process.

We need to watch ourselves in not neglecting our health i.e. eating healthily , exercising, getting out into nature and seeing to it that we have enough sleep , iow a healthy balance and routine to our life. Praying for our loved ones or people we have been divorced from is a compassionate act and practising meditation and forgiveness will keep us in the Light. 

Acceptance is also when we realize we have been changed but not defeated and we are stronger for this experience .

Be proud of yourself and to go through a mourning process is the hardest experience and journey  we need to live and experience .

For individual assistance and coaching in your grieving process , whats app us on.+27728807904

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Live your power!

As you know , i have contemplated for a while now to write another book, but have been holding back as ever day i am learning something new……which brings me to the start of me blogging from now on….i want to share more of my daily life, inspirations, learnings , feelings with you as my readers , clients, friends, fb community and family…….as we all learn from one another.

today i feel i want to explain what it means to take your power back and what this really means ….living in your power has nothing to do with wielding power over others but living more authentic, more real, more in your own truth of your values and beliefs…which in the end brings you to a place where you are actually more balanced, happier, more fulfilled and much more sensitive to others. i have often been told how i have always given away my power to the romantic relationships especially , in my life….which also brings me to a topic of BOUNDARIES..and to know where you end and someone else begins……to live in your power means also that you understand that you cannot change your circumstances but definitely how you can change your beliefs, your attitudes and your actions……despite any of the circumstances…..

plus a very important factor namely that you TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS ….with that it does not matter what were the circumstances, but that for instance , i can now make peace with my past and my past relationships for how i have reacted to all the events…..and from now on can make changes to my behaviours and have the ability to CHOOSE DIFFERENTLY ….as my truth about all my situations have brought me to more insight to myself and all my behaviours…..so then we do not condone or forget the lessons we had , but we can forgive ourselves and others for whatever was played out here…..and that gives us the POWER TO CHANGE OUR CHOICES AND BEHAVIOURS fully….how truly EMPOWERING.

TO LIVE your power is making you more confident in claiming your life and your rights without looking for acknowledgement from anyone else but to be the authority over your own life and happiness.

if you want to know if you are living in your own power, then feel into the center of your power which is the solar plexus chakra…just under the rib cage and it is of yellow colour….envision a yellow ball to circle anti clockwise and feel it strong and yellow as the sun and if you feel anxious about anything , you have most likely given your power away , but if you feel confident and strong about something, you are most likely living strongly in your solar plexus….you can breathe into this area to feel stronger and visualize more yellow and more strength into this area of your body….and it will strengthen you in your decisions…wala.

to take back your power will also strengthen your health , your emotions and you in your totality as you will get stronger and will feel more in control of yourself , your life.

Often we are only more aware of having lost our power through allowing others to take our power, our soul.

Learn to be more in tune with who you are and what you truly want and stay in your heart, gut and head to make your life fulfilling.